Friday, June 8, 2018

Balancing Act

I was watching a Korean escape room live action show this week.  That sounds weird doesn't it.  I do believe I warned you that I was an Odd Duck.  One of the challenges had the teams trying to solve a puzzle that involved weights that they had to pass from one side of a platform to the other while the whole team stood on it and had to keep the platform balanced.  Each over correction or miscommunication in the team sent the platform tilting into the penalty zone.  It got me thinking about balance.  In this season of rest that God asked me to enter into, I have been struggling.  One of the reasons I don't like resting is that I feel predisposed to laziness.  In my youth I poured out prayers to God asking Him to give me discipline.  I've always known that I had a problem.  It's one of the things I liked least about myself growing up.  Those people that know me now laugh at this idea.  I'm always busy.  I've got a schedule that has to be carefully maintained.  But that's the thing, I schedule.  I to do list.  I took my desire for discipline and I built a framework that would allow me to maintain it.  This season of rest has shone a spot light on the fact that without my careful constructs, I still don't have any discipline.

I knew that God had some things to teach me during this time of rest and it was clear from the start that when He asked me to clear my schedule, He meant it.  Just like God didn't move in Abram's life until after he had done ALL of what God asked of him (see Gen 12:1).  God told him to leave country and family behind but he couldn't do it.  He traveled with his nephew for a time but didn't get further direction from God until he parted ways with his family like God had asked him too.  So I set aside my scheduler and my to do lists.  They have been sitting blank and forlorn for weeks.  I blocked out huge swaths before our Hawaii trip to remind me that I didn't have tasks to do, I had rest.  

There is definitely a lesson in reminding yourself that obeying all of what God has asked of you is important.  Lifting one finger on the clenched fist you have around the thing He's asked you to let go of is not obedience.  It's a step in the right direction but it is not the end of the journey.  

So here I sit, feeling adrift.  What exactly is God asking me to do.  I've got things I could be doing but without my schedule and my to do list....I've done pretty much nothing.  I wasn't even spending quiet time with God for a while, which was not okay.  What exactly did God mean for me to be doing while resting.  It can't seriously be nothing, because that's awful, and yet that's what I was doing.  That's why this moment on the TV program hit me.  Life in general seems to be a balancing act.  We're trying to maintain moderation and sanity.  I didn't realize how often I tilted on a huge fulcrum.  All busy or all lazy.  Frantically over balancing myself trying to correct, leaning too far one way or the other.  So afraid of leaning to the lazy that I never even attempted to correct my seriously tilted life.  

Most people would tell you that the secret to physical balance is all about staying centered and micro corrections.  But stress responses usually throw that knowledge right out the window.  Just like physical challenges that affect balance, we have mental traumas that can have the same effect. It can start to feel like the deck is stacked against us when it comes to balance.  It's easy to forget the easiest trick to maintaining proper balance...
a point of focus.

You see, over correcting my flaws is what happens when I take control of trying to fix them.  

So, I'm learning in the quiet to do one thing.  Focus on my Savior.

How about you?  Have you over over corrected your balance?  Do you need to take some time to refocus and regain your balance?  You're not alone.




  1. "So, I'm learning in the quiet to do one thing. Focus on my Savior." I'm learning to do this more and more. I can never fix things in my own strength. And maybe I'm not always meant to fix them in the first place. How much better to focus on being obedient to God and follow His leading. Blessings to you! Thanks for linking up at the #LMMLinkup!

    1. Thanks Gayl. There is a whole lot of me too in what you said.

  2. I hear you! I've been praying more than usual about self-discipline! Not sure things have changed, yet, but I'll ask to see if I've obeyed all He's said to me so far! Blessings on your rest - a lifeftime of soul rest - if you haven't already, read Soul Keeping - so good - makes Dallas Willard easier to understand.

    1. That sounds awesome. You always have such great suggestions Sue!

  3. Oh, yes. I'm right with you. Finding balance is hard and I often overcorrect in my own attempts. I love what you wrote about rest and focusing on the Savior. Thank you for sharing at Grace and Truth last week. I would love to feature this post tomorrow.

  4. Oh, yes, indeed. In fact, my husband and I about a year ago started "keeping the Sabbath holy." One of the ten commandments most people DON'T follow. But we've set aside Saturday for Him. We don't work, but we simply rest. We welcome the Sabbath with a liturgy that includes four prayers, and then we simply rest until Saturday evening, when we go to church and then to Havdalah (the separation), where a simple liturgy ends the Sabbath and welcomes the new week to accomplish only those things He sets before us to do. Asking Him each day, "What do YOU want me to do? What do YOU want me to pray about?" keeps that single focus you talked about. Thank you for your post. It was most welcome!